The other day, I posted a photo of myself in this very same bikini—and, of course, the comments started rolling in. “Cover up…you’re a mother.” Cue the classic mom-shaming.
Since when did being a mom mean hiding your body? Since when did motherhood come with a rule that says you can’t feel sexy, confident, or proud of yourself? Honestly, how do people think babies even come into this world if mothers aren’t allowed to embrace their bodies?
One comment even told me to think about what my kids would think of my behind someday. You know what? I want my kids to see a mother who is body positive. I want them to see me confident in my own skin, owning every curve and flaw. And yes, they love my butt—they use it as a bongo when I’m cooking dinner or standing awkwardly in line at the grocery store. (Anyone else’s kids do this? No? Just mine, then.)
There is no law that says you can’t rock a bikini just because you’ve pushed a baby out of your vagina. If anything, that milestone alone deserves celebration—and maybe even a little glitter.
Growing up, I had a mom who hated her own body. She also passed that mindset onto me, nitpicking every little thing, pointing out every pound gained, every “imperfection” she noticed in me as a teenager. I fought like hell to unlearn that and finally love myself. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I felt brave enough to wear shorts in public again. Now, I make sure my own kids see and feel body positivity every single day—not just about appearances, but about loving themselves entirely.
Motherhood can strip away confidence. It leaves us exhausted, drained, and sometimes staring at a mirror, trying to recognize the body we once knew. Postpartum changes—stretch marks, loose skin—make it even harder to celebrate ourselves. But here’s the truth: sometimes, all a mother needs is to feel herself. To remember she is more than what society tells her she should be.
So, to every mom reading this: put on your bikinis. Rock those shorts. Wear what makes you feel good. You’ve earned it. Every woman deserves to feel confident and comfortable in her own skin—without the guilt, without the judgment, without the unsolicited commentary.
Let the mom-judging stop. Motherhood is already hard enough. We are damned if we do, damned if we don’t. Stay true to yourself. Stand tall. Celebrate your body. Own your life.
